Here’s how you can keep your marriage intact

Note: This blog was published first on Bonobology

“Marriages have become more complex than ever. There’ love, there’s trust, and there’s fun, but all of it is marred by misunderstanding, chaos, and countless ego clashes.” said my best friend as we were undertaking a leisurely stroll. Then, she told me how her husband screamed at her when she had accidentally lost her wallet which contained her husband’s pen drive. This young girl had tied the knot in October last year, but I could clearly see the fading splendour.

Then, there’s a male friend of mine who works as a copyeditor for a leading financial daily. His hectic schedule keeps him occupied even on weekends with a weekly off being the only saving grace. But surprisingly, he takes out time whenever he can in order to take his wife out for parties, get-togethers, and shopping.  He and his wife are happy with the way things are going and there married life is nothing short of perfect.

The concept of marriage is viewed differently by different people. Some people take it as a responsibility while others consider it to be nothing more than a burden. Ask 10,000 people about marriage and you’d surely get 10,000 different answers.

Whatever the definition of marriage might be, but the aspect that forms the essence of marriage is a couple’s ability to not just be delighted when they’re together, but also be derive joy and happiness out of the tiniest of things they do together.

Here are a few tips that might come in handy to keep your relationship on track:

Keep interacting with your partner: Communication helps keep misunderstandings at bay. Keep sharing the smallest of happenings with your partner. Take out some time to talk during the evening while you enjoy a hearty cup of tea. If you want to take the romance quotient a notch higher, then you can perhaps smile into each other’s eyes. Keeping these tiny bits and pieces intact would help you keep the relationship on track.

It’s perfectly fine if you aren’t available all the time: It’s a given fact that people are attracted to those who are beyond grasp.  It’s advisable to make sure that you have an exclusive set of friends. This would give you a set of exciting things (instances, photographs, and videos snippets) to share with your partner. Distance, at times, tends to bring two people closer.

It’s good to keep yourself well-groomed: It doesn’t always mean you have to keep up the make-up all the time. When I say well-groomed I don’t mean being groomed in the physical sense. Stay updated in order to keep the conversation sparkling and exciting.

Create a world that’s secure: It’s always good to keep certain things confined within the four walls of your house. Don’t hesitate to share your private moments with each other. Talk to your partner if you are feeling depressed. If there are things you don’t like, then it’s advisable to talk and sort them out.

Stop looking outwards: Your partner is the best match for you. As long as both of you keep respecting each other, you don’t need to search for ‘janam-janam ka pyaar’ beyond the one you already have. As long as you nurture this belief that you and your partner are made for each other, you’d be at peace with everything that you may come across.

 

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